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Pity is a kind of feeling from top to bottom. Only when she is in a high position can he feel pity. But where is the superiority of Qiao Liu, who is a common daughter but is more beautiful than her beautiful sister and the legitimate daughter of aristocratic families? 11 is not too much to describe the situation of Xu Fu, so where is she qualified to pity others? I think this gap in psychological status is due to the fundamental difference between modern women and ancient women. This fundamental difference is that modern women are self reliant, confident and equal.

One is self-reliance. A modern woman has been receiving the same education as men since her childhood. She has nine-year compulsory education, three-year secondary education and four-year higher education. Facing the same social pressure, women and men have the ability to stand on their own and can support themselves. This kind of self-reliance gives women the freedom to say no to things they don't like, are not willing to accept This kind of right is very common now, but it is precious or even rare in ancient times. Ancient women were the vassals of clans, families and men. They could not stand on their own and would never have a chance to taste the sweetness of freedom. A modern woman who once stood on her own would naturally look down upon the ancient women who belonged to the vassals, which has nothing to do with wisdom and ability It's only about the times. At the same time, it is precisely because 11 is a modern woman who has enjoyed freedom, so self-reliance and self-control of her own destiny has become the most basic and urgent pursuit of 11 in ancient times. Before this point is reached, there is nothing else. In my opinion, there can be a sign of true freedom and self-reliance, which is to say no to the sex she doesn't like. If she can do this, she will really stand on her own in Xu's house. She doesn't need to dodge the sex affairs like this. It's very difficult. Maybe 11 will never do it, but it doesn't prevent her from pursuing it, right?

Second, self-confidence, which is an additional product produced by self-reliance. Because of self-reliance, modern women can face anyone with their heads held high and have the confidence to solve the crisis independently. Women in ancient times are not so confident. From father, from husband and from son is not only a standard constraint on women, but also points out the three roles that ancient women must rely on in their life, one life attachment Other women, how to imagine that she can have the confidence to deal with things independently, so when she first entered the Xu mansion, Qiao Liu was eager to pursue the favor of a son and Xu Si, and thought that this was the foundation of her life. However, what she was eager to pursue was to let everyone accept her ability to identify with her as soon as possible, so that she could not be separated from her. 11 thought that this was the foundation of her life The same attitude determines their different style of life. It is undeniable that 11 has a broader vision than Qiao Liu, so she is still in a more advantageous position than Qiao Liu.

Thirdly, equality here refers to the equality between men and women. In ancient times, there was no equality between men and women. However, the modern monogamy is derived from equality between men and women. Only by recognizing that men and women are equal, can we recognize that monogamy should be reasonable. And it is this point that has drawn an insurmountable gap between 11 and Xu Si. 11 regards Xu Si as a superior but does not Regarding him as a man, not to mention a lover's husband, the boss is a kind of duty. Our attitude towards male and female superiors will not be different. In fact, Xu Si has been sexless. He is no different from his wife to her, but one is the chairman of the board and the other is the general manager. Qiao Liu will adore and envy Xu Si, but 11 has only reason to face Xu Si, It's easy for 11 to learn about her boss's psychology, needs and intentions in order to gain recognition and reuse. It's easy for 11, because she did it all her life in her last life, but it has nothing to do with men and women, love and husband and wife. This mentality makes 11 jump out of the love entanglement and can overlook Qiao Liu's behavior, but it also causes her to completely isolate Xu Si from her heart Besides, if it goes on like this, maybe 11 and Xu 4 can know each other and respect each other, but it is very difficult to know and love each other. How can Xu Si knock on this door? I am looking forward to it. But one thing is certain. If Xu Si does not put himself on an equal position with 11's, he will never knock on this door, because if they are not equal, then 11 will not regard him as a man What's more, it's impossible to talk about it.

to bring back the words, a place where cross-country women are really better than ancient women should be this kind of self-reliance and self-esteem engraved in their bones, rather than the so-called knowledge of more than 2000 years. At least, I think I can't be Wu Zetian even if I have more than 10000 years of experience. Now, many of them are limited to multi knowledge, which is the main theme of men's travel through literature, but it should not be female Through the main theme of the article, because modern women are not only knowledge, but also qualitative changes after women's liberation.

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